Every relationship reaches a rocky point. If they didn’t we would all be married to our first love, and there would be no such thing as couples counciling. However this is not that ideal world where love lasts forever and no-one ever gets hurt.
If the relationship seems like it has reached a point where it is nothing but rocky, it might be time to call it quits. If this is not what you want there may be a way to save a failing relationship, however it will take some work.
If you can only do one thing to help your relationships, it is improve communications. Communicating is the number one thing to master if you ever wish to have an ideal relationship with anyone. If you and your partner are not communicating effectively, thats a big source of your problems right there.
Sit down with your partner and come up with a list of things that bother one another about each other. While you are making lists, come up with things you love about one another as well. Focusing purely on the negatives can only lead to fighting and hastening the obliviation of your relationship. Getting these loves and hates out into the open will allow both of you to be mindful of the behaviors which your partner likes, and what drives them bonkers, and vice versa.
Also know that relationships are about comprimise. You have to be willing to give up some things in order to get some things. In most relationships you give up things to ensure the happiness of the partner. If you find yourself giving a great deal more than you are getting, this would be another great point to communicate about.
